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Take a curious,
sensitive, open and non-judgmental approach.
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Avoid binary language
when discussing porn such as ‘good/bad’ or ‘right/wrong’.
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Listen with empathy
and allow a young person to openly share their perspective.
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Normalise young people’s experiences.
Many youth describe feeling uncomfortable with what they see in porn – but still being aroused by it, which can result in confusion and/or shame.
Normalising any reaction to porn (such as feeling curious, grossed out, aroused – or all of these at the same time) can help reduce shame and open the conversation.
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Be calm in your responses,
avoid showing shock or surprise, and use open and engaged body language.
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Enquire
about the role culture or faith may have in a young person’s beliefs around porn, the impact that may have, and the appropriateness and safety of openly discussing porn.
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Model respect
for diverse sexualities and genders, as Rainbow young people may be accessing porn as part of a ‘coming out’ process and may need support with this.
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